Jan 26, 2018 by Abigail Sanchez

How Can Christians Bless Gay Marriages?

At the end of Summer 2017, Germany unexpectedly passed a bill legalizing gay marriage. Unprepared, Christians there are now caught between "keeping up with the times" and not leaving behind a belief they’ve always held. Most churches are navigating it by offering the couples a blessing rather than an official marriage.

The vast majority of Germany's Protestant churches have already adapted to the legalization of gay marriage with most offering at least a religious blessing over the same-sex union, if not performing the entire ceremonies themselves.

The Roman Catholic Churches there have not been so quick to affirm the marriages, as their theology is very clear that same-sex marriage is both unnatural and sinful, and the Pope has stood firmly against approving gay marriage, reserving that sacred union for one man and one woman.

Yet, as many Christians, the Pope and the Catholic Church in Germany have adopted a non-confrontative attitude - the "who am I to judge?" attitude - that makes way for subtle compromise in our conviction.

“I’m not for ‘marriage for all,’ but if two homosexuals enter a same-sex relationship, if they want to take responsibility for each other, then I can bless this mutual responsibility,” Bishop Franz-Josef Bode of Osnabrück, said, backing his stance saying, “It is now a political reality”.

“This is valuable and praiseworthy, even if this bond is not in complete agreement with the church,” said Bishop Bode, who is the deputy chairman of the German Bishops Conference.

“We have to ask ourselves how we should deal with people who tie this knot. Some of them are active in the church. So how are we going to accompany them with pastoral care and in the liturgy?” Bode continued.

His solution is to offer same-sex couples a blessing.

It’s admirable. Maintaining connection with the people most in need of Jesus is one of the most mature things leaders can do.

But perhaps there is a better solution.

Homosexual acts were sin in Moses’ day and Paul’s and every day before and in between. They still are. And the gay community is still just as worthy of our love, honor, and faithfulness, as any other people group is. We were all saved from something and in turn have every reason to extend the same kindness we were shown by God.

It’s not our job to convict people of their sin. That’s the Holy Spirit’s role. It is, however, every Christian’s duty to embrace conviction, because conviction is a gift that protects us and protects our relationship with God. Conviction also fills the foundation that a powerful ministry is built on.

Our Father is clear about homosexual acts. Even if we don’t understand why, if He leads us to believe something, our best response is to trust Him.

The Church can’t stand up for something that is blatantly sin just because its a “political norm”. That’s called compromise. Blessing a marriage between a man and a man or between a woman and a woman simply doesn’t line up, because if a Christian blesses something, it sets our stamp of approval and sends the message to the world that an ambassador of heaven wants God to make it prosper. It says, “God’s ok with this, and we are too. You have the go-ahead.”

But Jesus never stood up for sin. He never lowered his standard when He taught His disciples or hung out with prostitutes and drunkards. He loved and led.

How can a Christian bless a gay marriage?

By letting go of conviction.

But the world doesn’t need wishy-washy Christians. They need Spirit-led believers who are unconcerned with fitting in. Integrity may not be popular, but it proves trustworthiness and makes an eternal impact.

Don’t be afraid to stand up from what you believe.

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