“Marriage is a temporary covenant, just as full of sorrows as singleness is.” Paul was just as vulnerable to loneliness as anyone. He said in 1 Thessalonians 3:1–2, “When we could bear it no longer, we were willing to be left behind at Athens alone, and we sent Timothy.” You can hear in that that he hated to be alone. He loved partnership, he loved friendship, he loved people. He needed people. But he wished everyone could have the freedom of singleness for ministry that he had (1 Corinthians 7:7). He knew that wasn’t God’s will for everybody. But he does reveal the possibilities of singleness that he loved.
The desire for marriage is in proper perspective when it is not intensified by unrealistic notions that marriage is the key to happiness.
In other words, it’s not wrong to dream about the kinds of happiness a person may have in marriage. But don’t let your desire intensify because you idealize marriage as heaven on earth. Not only is marriage not heaven on earth — it’s not heaven in heaven. It won’t be there: “In the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage” (Matthew 22:30).
Let your desire for marriage be tempered and kept in proper perspective by this. Marriage is a temporary covenant, just as full of sorrows as singleness is, and pointing to a heavenly covenant, that single and married we enjoy.
Lastly, the desire for marriage is in proper perspective best when you’re part of a loving, Bible-preaching church. That is a family that will last forever."