Still, Alyssa said she just sensed that something was not right, and the next day, she went back to the hospital. There, a doctor determined that she was suffering from an incompetent cervix. Medical staff gave Alyssa magnesium in an attempt to keep her from dilating any further and kept her on bedrest, hoping that these measures would be enough.
Unfortunately, despite the magnesium, Alyssa’s cervix continued to dilate the next day.
She writes, “I don’t really remember what time they came in to check on me, but I know it was early. The ultrasound showed I was dilated to 5 centimeters and Scarlett was basically on her way to meet us…I felt like I had failed. I felt like I failed him and our daughter. All I could spit out was “I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.” I must have repeated that a dozen times. We both cried and prayed, prayed and cried. We called our family and close friends to tell them the news. We told them that it’d be a good idea to come to the hospital. We were surrounded by so much love that day. So many
At just 20 weeks and 5 days along, baby Scarlett was just a bit too young to survive; the youngest documented premature baby to ever survive was James Elgin Gill, born at 21 weeks and 5 days. Scarlett was born on Oct. 4 weighing 15 ounces. The Youngs called their family to the hospital where they all greeted little baby Scarlett and held her for two hours until she died. Scarlett’s grandmother also took photos to help them remember the moment.
As I held her, she gasped for breath,” Alyssa remembered. “I told her that I was so sorry. I told her I loved her. I told her it was okay to let go. Seeing your child dying and knowing that there is nothing you can do to save them, it’s a terrible feeling. You’re helpless. Everyone took their turns and held her. Everyone got to love her. That’s all she ever experienced was love.”