Texting, Zack argues, has become too normal between a spouse and an unmarried individual of the opposite sex. "We text without thinking. We text because the world we live in says text messaging with others, including the opposite sex, is perfectly acceptable communication," he points out. "Unfortunately, there is a false sense of security that exists in cell-phone text messaging: It almost always feels as though the words sent and received in a text will not venture into dangerous open waters. The reality is a text message is open water. There is no shallow end to stand on or wall to grab onto."
Seriously, though, Zack reminds us that affairs do not begin with sex. They start
We must protect ourselves from this temptation and snare. "Avoid giving your phone number to the opposite sex. If it is necessary to keep in touch with them, have your spouse give their number to them," advises Carter.
"Our goal is to remain constant with living above reproach, living above what culture says is acceptable or unacceptable, especially in our marriages."