How my kids answer these questions starts with me and Tiffani. As parents, we can help our kids lay a foundation built on solid ground, rooted and built up in Christ. Here are five factors that promote spiritual grit.
1. A growth mindset
Not, growth, as in inches on a scale. Growth, as in perspective on the world. Your kids will fail. Their perspective on falling determines how they get up. If your kids see any particular failure as the result of something lacking in them (a bad grade on a test is a lack of intelligence or being cut from a sports team is a sign they’re not athletic), they won’t rise up as quickly. This is called a fixed mindset. This perspective sees the world as, well, fixed. People don’t change. You got to dance with the girl you brought as the saying goes.
The opposite of this is the growth mindset. It says we’re always growing and changing. Failure, through this lens, isn’t a stamp of inadequacy. It’s an opportunity to learn, to change, to grow. This perspective is, by the way, the only one that leads to spiritual growth. Unless you see yourself as ever-changing, you won’t grow. Your God will always be small, confined to your biases, race, demographic, country. Start early, encouraging your kids to grow, to learn, to see failure as an opportunity.
Passion wears a scarlet letter today. We’re weary of having a lot of it or
In his book, A Long Obedience in the Same Direction, Eugene Peterson says, “It is apathetic,
Parents, pay attention to our kids. Watch for those things that awaken something in them. Give them space to express anger. It’s a sign of passion. Give them space to get in touch with their imagination. Don’t quickly come to the aid of their boredom. Your kids need time alone with their thoughts and with their God. Resist, at all costs, their desire to waste their days in front of an electronic box.
Hope in what? In God, that all the trials and suffering, as well as all the seasons of celebration, have a divine purpose. Never miss an opportunity to show them God’s movement in their world. Hope anchors our existence to the Eternal. When life becomes hopeless, we’re susceptible all levels of evil.
Hope also in humanity, that despite the pervasive evil in our society, the general direction is a forward one. It’s so vital to see the good in people, even if every piece of evidence suggests otherwise. Otherwise, you’re resigned to cynicism. “What’s the use?” will become your life’s mantra. You won’t help your neighbor because what’s the use. You won’t fight for justice because what’s the use. I’ll watch Netflix instead.
Every human ever was created in God’s image. Yes, people do heinous things to one another. But no one is beyond redemption. No one. Your kids need to know this.
4. Encouraging mentors and friends.
It is essential that your kids have multiple positive, Christ-honoring influences in their life. They need people who will encourage them, support them, be there for them.
I can’t tell you how important this was for me. Along the way, I can think of multiple people,
5. Resilient parents.
I heard someone say recently, “Children have never been good at listening to their elders, but they never fail to imitate them.” I want my kids to follow Jesus as long as they have breath in their lungs. I want them to be faithful spouses and parents. I want them to love their neighbor as they love themselves.
If I’m not modeling these ideals, however, I shouldn’t expect my kids to adopt them. Every parent knows this, I believe. We’re terrified to accept it, but we know it’s true.
Rules might keep your kids in line. The standard operating procedures in your home might breed compliance. But your actions shape who your kids become.
Is your life worthy of imitation? Can you say, with confidence, as Paul says in 1 Corinthians, “Follow my example as I follow the example of Christ”? Are you living with passion? When stuff hits the fan, do you press into your community and your Creator?
Call it grit. Call it resilience or perseverance. Regardless, our kids need it. And as
I would love to hear from you. What does it take to foster spiritual grit? Leave a comment below.
Grace and peace, friends.
This article was written by Frank Powell and originally appeared at his blog. Find it here.
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